Wednesday, February 27, 2002

27th February 2002 10-30 CET
Self knowing
"If you do not want what I want
please try not to tell me that my want is wrong.
Or if my beliefs are different than yours,
at least pause before you set out to correct them.
Or if my emotion seems less or more intense
than yours,
given the same circumstances,
try not to ask me to feel other than I do.
Or if I act, or fail to act,
in the manner of your design for action,
please let me be.
I do not, for the moment at least,
ask you to understand me.
That will come only when you are willing to
give up trying to change me into a copy of you.
If you will allow me any of me own wants,
emotions or beliefs, or actions,
then you open yourself up to the possibility
that some day these ways of mine might not
seem so wrong,
and might finally appear as right -
for me.
To put up with me is the first step
to understanding me.
Not that you embrace my ways as right for you,
but that you are no longer irritated
or disappointed with me for my seeming waywardness.
And one day, perhaps, in trying to understand me,
you might come to prize my differences,
far from seeking to change me, might preserve
and even cherish those differences.

I may be your spouse, your parent, your offspring,
your friend, your colleague.
But whatever our relation, this I know;
You and I are fundamentally different
and both of us
have to march to our own drummer."

Rerpinted with the kind permission of
Professor David Keirsey:
"Please Understand Me II"
Published by Prometheus Nemesis Book Co.
ISBN 1-885705-02-6

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Monday, February 25, 2002

25th February 2002 13-40 CET
Raison d'etre
As folks seek 'enlightenment' nowadays, it
seems so often to me that there is great
disatisfaction with life. So, we seek
something better, huh?

That is also the modus operandi of the
'consumer society': it's NEW, it's Improved,
it's got this extra or that extra, it's the latest
technology, it's the most approved version,
it's the most sold!!!! etc.etc.etc.

Clearly, this methodology is suspect! For
as with most new purchases, be it hi-fi or
washing powder, we are often confronted with
an unpleasant fact...we have been the victim
of 'hype' .

When this happens with spiritual methodologies
it leads to considerable unhappiness...... that what folks were seeking in
the pursuit of enlightenment? Happiness?

Hmmmm......"The purpose of our lives is to be happy".
so said the 14th Dalai Lama

Is that what the search for 'enlightenment' is about?
If so, then how do we achieve this 'blissful state?"
Endless meditation? Chanting mantras?
Retreating into 'holy caves' or temples?

"If you want happiness for an hour - take a nap.
If you want happiness for a day - go fishing.
If you want happiness for a month - get married.
If you want happiness for a year - inherit a fortune.
If you want happiness for a lifetime - help someone else".
Chinese Proverb

Or, put another way,
"If you want others to be happy, practice compassion.
If you want to be happy, practice compassion."
Dalai Lama

Now in my case it may be a very compassionate
action to hide away in a meditative cave for
endless years...thus sparing humanity the
affliction of my thoughts.............hehehehehe

However, it seems clear from all the great
spiritual leaders.....
there can neither be enlightenment nor
happiness without 'inter-action'.

It is the energy cycle of the lovingness,
the ebb and flow of it's compassion,
that is in every single aspect and atom
of existing. Stem the flow = unhappiness,

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